One of the biggest worries Lisé & I see every year whilst visiting Year 6 classes, is surrounding friendship.
I (Lou), didn’t go to a Kent School, there was no test, and unless you had rich parents or a scholarship, our whole town went to the same Secondary School. I think there were about six primary schools all at least two form entry who flowed into the local secondary. I went with my friends, but it didn’t stop me from worrying about making friends.
In our transition workshops we talk about making good choices, and one of them is about friendships. We remind them that friendships take time to build and it’s ok to not make your best friend straight away.
You can help them think about places to find new friends by helping them think about the things they like and dislike. Will there be clubs in the school they can join that encourage their hobbies and skills? This could be a great way to make friends.
Remember though, you don’t have to be exactly the same as everyone to be their friend… watch the cautionary tale below and then maybe watch it again with your child (if you feel appropriate) and have a chat to them about whether they’ve ended up making bad decisions and how they could stand up for others instead.
For the rest of us, let us be praying that these young people make great friends in the new school year and that even when they struggle they know there is a friend like no other.